I am 23. I still live with my parents while I get myself together. Also to help with my grandma because without some type of help this "job" will drive her crazy. I originally agreed to help because my grandma had always been one of the most generous and loving people ever and both my mom and I agreed that we we would do whatever we had to do to keep her out of the nursing home thinking that she would be more susceptible to familiar faces instead of strangers. The problem is I still try to help out now but I am slowly trying to establish a life for myself and even have a job now. When I come home from my job most of the time I am tired, but of course my mom still wants a break and I try to give her one. She has siblings but they are only so helpful.
When I do help my mom seems grateful, but sometimes I can't help but think I just want to live my life like I don't have any kids or a significant other so this is kind of my time to just do me. I'm just trying to find my own way right now and I hate having to be bound to this, but of course then when I take time for myself I feel guilty. In the same if I work outside of the home M-F and my mom takes care of my grandma those same days both of us want to enjoy ourselves on the weekend. Both of us deserve to be able to live our lives but this responsibility holds us both back a lot. I think we both don't want to leave her when she needs us the most,but this duty is also whooping our butts. PS my mom also feels like no one understands her burden and she is unappreciated etc but to be honest I know her pain it's sad but I kind of hate that if she doesn't help out I'm put in her position. I am caught in between a rock and hard place like do I throw myself under the bus or do I continue to do what I can and watch my mom drown.