My wife recently became a stay at home mom. It has not been a transition that has come easy to her. Going from a career woman to staying at home with our 2 small children has taken some getting used to for both of us. Her father's health has steadily declined over the years with multiple heart attacks and recently he has had to have 1 of possibly many surgeries to correct an intestinal issue. My wife is currently with him in Florida and we live in Pennsylvania, which means a flight both ways or a 15-17 hr Drive. She is already planning on going back down next week and for each follow up procedure in the future. I am trying to be understanding and supportive, but I also do not want her to neglect her responsibilities at home. We have limited to no options for childcare, which means if she is not here- I need to be. We cannot afford for me to not be at work week after week, so my question is when is it ok to say enough is enough? I would never want to tell her "no, you can't fly to Florida to be with your Dad", especially if something happened to him. My wife and her siblings get obviously offended when I mention preparing for the worst or offer solutions (maybe dad needs to move back to PA where people can easily support him instead of living in Florida by himself), but I feel like I see things a bit more clearly. Maybe I'm just venting here, but I do not want this situation turning into a bigger one with our family and our home.