My brother has agreed to move home to help me take care of my father. We are all in the same house now. He has refused to most anything to help dad or be nice to him. I am wondering how to encourage him to help dad?
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This may have to end with Brother moving out. Or at least paying rent. But explore what is really going on if you can, first. There may be some issues the two of you can resolve.
Understand that you cannot force someone to help if they don't want to. And, I would be concerned for your dad’s well-being if you leave him alone with Brother. If Dad and Brother never had the best of relationships, Brother may choose this opportunity to be less than loving with Dad if you know what I mean.
Talk frankly with Brother and tell him if he doesn’t want to help you, would he contribute financially to paying a caregiver? If he says no to that, then tell him he has to help you. He doesn’t have to be hands-on with Dad all the time. He can wash dishes, do laundry, clean house, etc. if he refuses again, tell him you will help him pack.