Dad has type 2 diabetes, has been in the hospital twice within 2 weeks, had a stroke which he fully recovered from but mom is refusing to give him care. She hasn't picked up his meds in 6 months, won't get a test kit to test his blood sugar, gives him candy and high sugar foods, refused the ambulance to take him to the hospital after he had a stroke when his sugar was at 600. Their Dr. is furious. At their last appointment he told her she is incapable of caring for herself or him. His sugar was back to 600 and he was very lethargic barely awake. Dr. suggested assisted living. She refused. He then strongly suggested a home health care nurse to provide their meds every day and test his sugar. She reluctantly agreed. After the nurse came for the interview she told mom she can refuse the care if she doesn't want it! She did. The nurse called the Dr. and he is 1000% behind helping dad. How can she refuse? Isn't that an abusive caregiver? What options are out there?