Mother is 94 in assisted living. My husband had stage 4 prostate cancer. I cannot do anything right. I have a panic attack every time I go to see her. This past month she has attacked me, my husband, my daughter and even her 2 year old great grand daughter because she says MINE all the time. Today I came and said we would like to bring her a meal from her favorite Czech restaurant and I suggested we eat in a common area because my husband cannot balance a styrofoam tray on his lap because his hands shake. She said the place is too dark which is untrue and we should get her something and we can eat at the restaurant. I said the whole point is that we eat together. She said we don't really want to. She is so nice to strangers....I am at the end of my rope and I wish God would take all our suffering....I need HELP from you who understand so well....I am the only child also.