Grandma-in-law is who I care for. Her kids (only 1 of them honestly) help very little I got really frustrated 1 day and basically said it's her or me. Sadly he said he will not choose. We have been together almost 13 years I'm almost 2yrs into caring for her and take good enough care of her I think I'm actually gonna make her live longer😧 I believe he really thinks this is something I'm gonna do till the day she dies which will include NEVER going anywhere when she eventually becomes bedridden(yrs away yet) I have a 12 yr old and a 6 yr old. I feel depressed almost half the days of a month having to drag her EVERYWHERE. I can't take it. I love him but I don't have it in me to do 10 more yrs I wish my own health would fail for the sweet release of death(I'm only 37 smh) but I know it won't any time soon and by the time she goes and I CAN enjoy life I think it will have all been sucked out. She's needy demanding and worries more about her dog than her self on top of the fact he tells me to just let her do whatever she wants. I told him today he cares more about her than anyone else I get well if THATS how u feel maybe we shouldn't be together feels like a guilt trip honestly and I don't want to tear apart my family plus the fact I have nowhere to go (dad's past 10 yrs ago don't talk to mom and I don't have a car of my own to live with sis). I feel so s*** right now I feel trapped and I don't think he would want to separate just for the simple fact there is nobody he can depend on to care for her. Insurance won't cover in home care (even for a few hrs) I had her Dr check on it. I am filled with self pity and that makes it worse. What should I do?? Fyi she has brain damage, dementia (from tbi,and being a drunk for 40 yrs) low bp,anxiety, depression.