There must be something in the water, because the drama has been nonstop. In today's episode of "The Sick and Dysfunctional" Tinyblu had to ward off accusations that she is purposely keeping "The Family" from Dad. The truth: Of Dad's 8 remaining offspring (13 total -- that we know of), only two were in his life, me and my baby brother who committed suicide in 2012 (further evidence of dysfunction). The others pop up every now and then, but have been less of a presence since I got DPOA. There are two "daughters" however, that RARELY come to see him or communicate with him that do nothing but cause turmoil. The oldest, who lives in California, will call Dad to tell him about how her breast cancer is back and how she would come to see him, but she can't afford it. She's never there to watch the sleepless nights that result from her announcements. I've asked her to please keep her conversations with Dad positive, but she will tell Dad that I told her not to call him thus making me the bad guy. The other isn't even his daughter. She popped up when I first moved Dad to live close to me and promised to visit him monthly and help out. You know how that turned out. She calls from time to time and drops in a couple times a year -- normally on a layover to one of the exotic destinations she's visiting since she no longer has to pay for a home (we gave Dad's house to her. I didn't want that den of dysfunction). BUT these two gals LOVE to get in cahoots with each other and evil stepmom to relay how I'm PURPOSELY keeping Dad from them. Here's the thing... they keep asking Dad to come and visit them. OK... I'll put an 87 year old legally blind man with mobility issues, end stage COPD (with 24 hour oxygen) and resulting dementia on a plane for 5 hours to visit California. Or, I can put him in the car for 1.5 hours to visit his hometown overnight to visit the one with the house. This is the same woman who LOST Dad during his last visit because she let him visit the neighbor unsupervised. I'm sure she can manage his 18 scheduled meds and Morphine and Ativan as needed for the panic attacks he's sure to have because he's in a different environment. NO THANK YOU!!!! Apparently, I've made no efforts to take Dad back home to visit. You're DA** right! I don't have time because I work two jobs and it's no picnic to travel with him in his stage of decline, and did I mention, I CAN'T STAND our hometown? Oh yeah... I'm also "keeping all the money" What money? Do they realize that Dad's little nest egg is LESS than what it costs for a year of AL? So, I got the "intervention" phone call about how I should do more to "keep the family together in this trying time" HA!!!!!!!! I told the "family" that they are welcome to visit Dad at any time, and that every time I have tried to plan something, they say they are too busy or can't afford to come. Evil stepmom always starts her excuse off with "I know you don't understand this because you don't have a husband and children of your own..." and it just boils my blood. How is it that I'm doing EVERYTHING I can to manage this man's care, but I still get the SH*T end o f the stick? Why is all of this happening at once. Needless to say, I ended up hanging up the phone then saying all of the things I wish I SHOULD have said to them...but I'm perfect Tinyblu. The "golden child" who has to be perfect. The harder I try to make them understand what I'm going through, the worse it gets. I can't win... I will always be worthless to them and myself. Why do I even try?!?!