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I submit this question simply with honesty. After caring for both MIL and FIL for two years..........the thing that gags me is "teeth." Yes, worse than poop for me. My FIL (now deceased) had false teeth. He would pry them from his mouth dripping with saliva and hand them to me. Sure, I put gloves on, etc...but for some reason those teeth really triggered my gag reflex.
Now my MIL is unable to brush her teeth and I have to do it.. or things get really stinky. It is the hardest thing I do. Anyone else comment on one particular thing that she/he finds "stomach upsetting"?

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When people state that they "hate" something or people.
Hate is a hard horrible word that is filled to nothing with nothing but negativity.
We can be angry, frustrated, down, depressed, but hate is a form of abuse. (IN MY OWN OPINION). We need to rise above those that hate, and show them love.
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Captain I don't know how to respond to your posts but they do make me laugh. When you blow that mf up be sure and post pictures!! LOL
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i visited my aunt today and she asked me to trim the bangs out of her eyes again . now the last time i did this the roommate narced me out and pia went all spastic on me . next visit ( tomorrow ) ill be packing my scissors and toenail snips in my pocket . edna trimmed my hair and toenails 50 yrs ago and im happy to do the same for her now . the nurses dont care , they know pia is bout half nuts . one of em told me today that altho edna and i have been grounded by pia , my visits clearly bring edna to life . i looked her straight in the eyes and told her " make no mistake , were gonna blow this mf one of these days " . no hearing or comprehension problems existed . she knows exactly what im sayin . on the proper beautiful spring morning edna and i are out of there for a couple of hours . im an honest person, i dont want them to feel betrayed when it happens . pia is overstepping her authority since edna has not been declared incompetant , nh just dont want to interfere with pia , she signs the checks ( so to speak ) .
im the vlad putin of family carers . shake your right hand and smile and shiv ya in the brain stem with my left . ( so to speak )
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I have to laugh at the responses here. Just goes to show we're human! I too have problems with feet.They are just plain gross to take care of. For all of you with this problem contact your local podiatrist. I take my Mom to the podiatrist every 9 weeks routinely for toenail clipping. Medicare pays for it in full. Thank goodness what a blessed service.
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I am gagging writing this.
Hammer toes,bunions,deep corns & wants me to clip toenails.
Coughing phlem into tissue & pulling tissue apart to look at it.
Blowing nose and wiping on her nitegown or clothing.
Picking at her face and leaving huge marks on it.
Coughing phlem into her hand and staring at it while it drips. OMG.
Her legs are so messed up with purpora from drugs and paper thin skin drooping.
Smearing dog crap on white tile saying she cleaned it up.
Splatter on both toilet seats & wont clean them. (I refuse to).
Scratching till bleeds on sheets & wont let me change them. (They are not dirty).
Wiping her phlem on sofa & dog licks it. Kleenex is right there.
There is more but I might have to go rest my stomach.
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I'm gonna add the word "phlem"
I can't even type any more about it - ugh.....................................
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Desert192 - I hear you!
I keep a pack of the disinfecting wipes by the toilet. Every time somebody goes, just get a wipe and rub it under the set all the way around. It really cuts down on some of the yuck factor. I have 2 teenagers & wonder how on earth "that" gets up under there. When mom lived with us....it just defied physics.

I also wipe the inside of the toilet lid, since it gets misted when the toilet flushes....if you shut the lid first.
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Cleaning the raised toilet seat underneath. P - U !
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Something else I thought of.

When my mom eats, she makes these grunting noises. Is it due to physical problems: reflux, or is it a bad habit? Who knows? But it's gross.

Sorry to tell on ya, Mom!

Sharon
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Finding my Mom cleaning out the litter box with my cooking utensils. I know you can wash them but still.....yuck.
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my father needs help putting on his support hose. His legs aren't so bad, an occasional sore or two but his feet are godawful. Not smelly (I also have a good sense of smell) but flaky, dry, toenail fungus etc. Cream doesn't help altho he uses it from time to time. I hate going down into his study and there are visible flakes of skin on the carpet. Bless his heart though, he doesn't get offended when I ask if he minds if I use gloves.
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All the above...
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Like everybody mentioned here toenails and false teeth are the grossest things the bathroom thing comes second.
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Amazon sells a tea-tree & epsom salt mixture that I've been using on Mom's feet, because she has the same fungus thing going on with her feet. Her general practitioner tried to tell me it was just "age-related". Uh - no. Age doesn't cause you to grow crusty clusters of what looks like about 80 layers of skin in some places that actually has to be scrubbed off. And if it was age-related, it wouldn't keep growing back!
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sandwich42 id be gone! nothing more gross than fungal feet gosh get her to bathe in teatree oil every night it kills all fungus UGH no sorry id be gone with this maybe "teeth" are not so bad now!
No my mum has lovely feet small and petite but she sees a chiropodist regularly as she knows a chiropodist isnt going to put her in a home so she dosnt mind going to her?? yeh they are clever!
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For me it is the food on the face while she is eating. Not sure why that bothers me so much but I cannot finish my food if I notice it.
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The feet-related gross out is because mom has some stupendous foot fungus going on due to her unregulated blood sugars. She has ignored it for decades and it is worthy of a podiatrist text book. The odor will knock you down.

You would need a belt sander to start fixing it. She is in complete denial about it. She likes to pick at her feet with her bare hands and any kind of clipper/pointy thing she can get her hands on. She won't let them air out.

When her blood sugars are better controlled, it starts to recede a little bit, but most of the time it's just revolting.
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lol . baby diapers -- never been a problem for me . we have hormones that make us love the little crap factories ..
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For me its guck in corners of eyes. I can't look in someones eyes if they have that eye guck. My love for my Mom surpasses that though. I just think of all the times when I was a child and she had to clean poo, urine, vomit etc. That makes it easier.
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i would have a hard time with adult crap but id do it if necessary . i do not get the foot fetish with you gals . feet are the driest and farthest from any orifice thing on a human body . i actually get satisfaction from exising an ingrown toenail for someone i care about cause i know what an instant relief it is .
id have a hard time doing anything remotely intimate for a man . not interested in seeing a male body .
this is out there but one of the worst gag moments i ever had was while having china buffet dinner with a woman she reached over with glazed eyes and droolling and forked the last remaining mussle on the halfshell so hard the saucer rattled -- without asking if anyone else wanted it or if wed like to get more of them .. really ? this sob was a prescribing phsyc doc . if shes stalking me and reads this , tough s*it . thats some messed up personal manners ..
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Also the worst thing is her eating her food with no "teeth" i mean how do you eat a steak with no teeth????????? oh so gross! i remember getting a whack on the hand if i had my knife in the wrong hand when i was younger??
She must suck the life out of the steak? she says her teeth hurt so fair enough i just dont know how you can eat a steak with no teeth! I told my brother to shoot me if i ever eat like this!
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Diapers and her colostomy bags are everywhere! BUT i dont have to wipe her so thats a plus! I have to say "teeth" i have to leave the room when she takes them out and picks them! ugh feel sick now!

I have found them in the most bizarre places and lets just say i have my OWN MUG yep dont trust picking up a cup here her teeth are bound to have been left in there a few days!
oh really feel sick now! has put me off my tea and chocolate biscuit!
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Glory be, the whole package gags me. I am fine with babies and their messes. Barf on me all day long if you're a baby (I had one child who did for 12 months straight. Apparently he'd have been diagnosed with reflux if he was a baby now. We didn't know back then.)

But when it comes to ANYTHING from my mom - here comes the hairball! It's psychological. I never could stand for her to touch me ever. Her hands are hot. Now, I can't handle it. Hair brushing, butt wiping, the whole thing.

Of course, when we visit, all she wants me to do is get her clothes off and look at every little spot on her body that has itched since the last visit, and to clean out her ears, and stand in the bathroom while she spends half an hour farting and pooping and stinking up the entire wing of the place. I'm not there to steady her or anything functional. She just demands I go in there with her, which I will absolutely not do.

Her feet gag me. Her hairbrush gags me. Being asked to scratch her back gags me. It has to be with my bare fingers, not a back scratcher, of course. "Come look at how long the hair on my legs is!" gags me.

In the past few years she has lost any and all sense of personal hygiene and decorum. She used to be neat as a pin, super private with anything body related, and could hardly bring herself to talk about the birds & bees when it was time. She wouldn't recognize herself now.
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Omg me too. I can handle cleaning poop , putting suppostitories and enemas, being drooled on, but dentures makes me cringe. I put gloves to handle them
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Cleaning BM up and washing body after and on bed all over. Before I realize to put depends on and its too late..My stomach anymore rolls over !!
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The worst, would have to be the puking and " bathroom number 2". Those are the worst for me.
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Drool and snot. Go figure. I can handle the poo, the puke, the teeth, know how to breath through my mouth and avoid the stinky stuff ... I can even handle wounds (as long as they're not bleeding). But drool just makes my stomach retch.
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Vomit - all that glutinous wobbly liquid just makes my stomach heave. Thank goodness mom only did that twice while bedridden. It soaked all over her, clothes, skin, bedding, etc...
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Mucus !!!! I can clean toenails, clean up puke and pooh... change urine soaked diapers, but mucus, great big globs of mucus send me running.....
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