My husband and I went to visit his brother in Memory Care last week. (he was there 5 weeks)
When we got there, he was eating lunch so we waited in the car. He came out with the Administrator and was walking toward my husband and I. The Administrator started yelling at him and grabbed him by his arm and pulled him back to her and yelled for him to sit in the chair.
She was in a rage saying that my BIL had been disrespectful to her staff by cursing and calling them names. She stated that he knew what he was doing (he has dementia) and that she will just discharge him back to the hospital.
I spoke to a nurse and she did tell me that he had been cursing and calling names but "he had not been aggressive or hitting."
However, a week later, my husband and I get the call that he had been discharged back to the hospital "for aggression" and that the facility will not take him back.
My BIL had stayed 8 months in the pschiatric unit (prior to this Memory Care Unit) and my husband and I were so amazed at how well he was doing. The nurses called every day and said he was not having any behaviors.
He had went into the hospital for a few days for an unrelated issue. The doctor called me from the hospital and wanted to know if I felt the facility was giving him the care he needed and if I had noticed any behavior changes.
I am just not getting this.
We visit and the Administrator is yelling and pulling on him, threating to send him back to the hospital.
My husband and I bought him a lot of new clothes, however, he would always have on old clothes when we visited.
BIL told us he screamed for help to get out the bath tub and that they left him there for 2 hours. When the nurse did arrive, she stated "You got in there""Why can't you get out."
We are told he was not aggressive or hitting any one but is discharged for being aggressive.
What do you think?