Mom (68) has dementia, dad's 73 and relatively healthy. I work at home, with medical background so I know what's coming. No will, no power of attorney, no geriatrician, no neuro, no waiting lists, no official dementia diagnosis, refuses to do any of the above. I pulled back on helping in the kitchen to drive dad to ask for help. We have flies now, cause mom likes to help and hide or wash dishes so dirty dishes and food is often hidden in the cabinets. Know what dad did? Got bug zapper night lights. She gave the checkbook to the lawn guys. It takes TIME to get all this stuff in motion. Mom fell again on Sunday without serious injury, screaming bloody murder in pain and fear. If either of them get hurt, I can't care for them myself cause I work. Mom would be a ward of the state. Even saw a lawyer myself and brought home paperwork, explaining how she has to be lucid to sign documents and how $500 now is cheaper than $5000 later to get guardianship/probate. I don't know what else to do. I've gained so much weight I now have extreme pain and I'm over 350lbs so it's hard to walk. I'm going to die before them now. I have no rights here, no future, and neither of them have security either. What do I do?