I imagine if there was an easy answer, we’d all be doing it, be happier, and much better off, but, alas.
My father is 88, sound mind, mostly healthy and stubborn as bleep. He had really bad sciatica, was miserable, and hit on the idea of getting a Trike. It’s been great in that he’s stronger, feels better, and overall it’s a good thing. He’s moving again!
But, I wouldn’t be here if it were that simple.
When he first got it, I told him that he needed a helmet. He got pissed and said, “I don’t need a helmet”. He got a helmet for Xmas from my cousins which turned out to be a good thing because, well, we all know where this is headed. I also suggested some biking gear so he wouldn’t lose things, etc. I I’ve biked a lot of years, he did too when he was younger, and I’ve lost all kinds of things, so I was trying to help.
So, naturally, he lost the remote to the garage, his keys and has fallen off the bike. It wasn’t a bad fall but he didn’t tell me about it until it was hurting really bad and he got scared and wanted to go to the ER.
I know I can’t save him from himself, he’s an adult and I’m not seeing any cognitive impairment other than a sheer determination not to accept any help from me or listen to me.
So, I guess, I’m interested in any advice, tricks, whatever, that helps to motivate an elderly father to behave a bit smarter and maybe take some advice that he doesn’t want. Or, maybe some advice that I don’t want.