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He's stopped taking all of his meds and he's been having a lot of mini- to big strokes. He also won't go to get checked out by a doctor or any of that.

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Look into respite services before you need it!!!
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How do you think you can provide care 24/7? What plan do you have long term?
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SexyMama47: Think long and hard before taking on such a monumental task.
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I think that a daughter/son that loves their dad so much that they are willing to take care of them is a beautiful thing!!! No one will take care of him like a loved one. That being said, never take this on without knowing the costs, the physical challenges, sleep issues, showering, eating, toileting, medications, doctor visits, possible hospital trips, changes in personality, or all the other challenges that come with doing this wonderful act of love. Best of luck to you.
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Fawnby Jun 14, 2025
"No one will take care of him like a loved one."

That is simply not true. A loved one most probably doesn't have the training for major issues, such as having to give them a shot in the stomach or dealing with non-stop diarrhea in the middle of the night. A loved one can fall apart emotionally while providing care for a family member because it is so very hard to watch them decline and die. A loved one could be like my Rude Aunt, who treated her brother and the whole family terribly as he died and afterward.

Yet a professional caregiver can come to love their clients, as was the case with both of my parents in the past and my husband presently. Even without love, the kindness and respect and professionaliism of non-family caregivers has major benefits for the sick person.
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Do you live with dad? If your looking to become a paid caregiver, the only way is through the state, after an assessment, and if he won't even go to doctors, that's not going to happen.

Next time you see any signs of stroke, walk out side, or in another room, call 911, don't ask him , don't tell him! Just do it!!
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How do you define *caregiver*? What are your aims?

Move in? Provide meals, help keep his home clean & tidy etc?

Or be PAID for caregiving?

Or something else? Something along the lines of making your Dad seek medical help, take prescribed meds, follow diet & exercise advice?

Let me ask: Is your Dad safe? Is he eating? Washing himself, changing soiled clothing? Is his home mostly clean & tidy?

Or is he unable to look after himself? Living in squalor, or has vermin in the home?

What level of help does he need?
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