It’s gotten to the place to where I dread going to see my parents. We have always been so close but this is so hard. My mom is in AL memory care and my dad is in a SNF. It is so physically difficult, as well as emotionally difficult, taking him to see her because he is in a wheelchair and it wears him out as well as myself. What do you do when she can’t understand why he can’t be with her? If I take her to see him, it upsets her to see him in a SNF. If I go see her without him, he is all she wants to talk about, getting them a little house or him coming to stay with her. I know this is going to have to be a permanent living arrangement due to her not allowing anyone to help him but I can’t tell her that. It is so depressing having to see her in the confused state she’s in and him in the physical condition he’s in. How do I cope with this knowing there’s nothing else I can do and knowing I have to be there for them? It is so depressing and heartbreaking.