My mother and I have never gotten along. She's been very critical of me from day one and never misses the chance to get in a "dig" about my driving, my weight, my looks, etc.
I've tried limiting my time with her and that has helped A LOT! But, when I DO have to talk with her on the phone or take her to an appointment, it's awful!
I've tried telling her how her comments hurt me, but she's oblivious. Says she's only trying to "improve me".
I have found alternate transportation for her, which she uses occasionally. She still lives in an apartment, but no longer drives. She's 87.
I'm her only nearby relative, and her POA...I'm "IT"!