My sister and I are beyond burnout. We have hit a wall. My sister finally found a wonderful assisted living place and moved my mom there. Now, our mom has found a strange man, who we have proof is a con artist, to secretly help her move to a condo where she thinks she can live on her own. She is a major alcoholic, shopaholic, hoarder, and lies all the time. She has caused us pain and strife our entire lives. A massive stroke has caused her to be worse. She just inherited a great deal from her father's death. It is making her think she can do anything, recklessly and in poor judgement. We have called all the resources. We have doctors' reports that insist she cannot live alone and they recommend assisted living. We have worked so hard and tried everything we know to help my mom. I have made an appointment with an attorney to help my mother with estate planning, etc. But, I don't think he can convince my mom that she should stay at the ALF and not try to move out on her own. She lived with me for almost 2 years. I am disabled by severe and chronic illness of my own. Everyone knew I could not do this job of caregiver. My sister tried to take over and had my mom with her for about 6 months. She is also disabled by extreme illnesses. We have come to the point where we wish we could just disappear and never have to think about all this again. We have no lives of our own anymore, no peace...just constant worry and stress about our mom. I'm so tired. We feel lost. Who else can take over and help our mom be okay? I don't want to have her taken to court for an incompetency judgement because I don't know exactly what will happen to her after that. But I do know my sister and I cannot continue with this at all. I'm sorry.