I do not want to feel aggravated. I feel really guilty, because I get aggravated. It's only me, my sister passed away, my kids and nephews help as much as they can. They are young and all work...so that's hard. Anyway sometimes people want me to come to their house and it's SO HARD to bring them out I have wheelchairs, walkers, Medicine, incontinent supplies, their blankets extra clothes...kinda like having twins but elderly women. Then my Aunt has dementia so she's a mess after we go anywhere for at least a week...it's so hard to go anywhere..because I can NOT leave them alone. I can't take only 1 unless I find detailed someone to sit home with the other one. Family events are HARD because the whole family will be there and the family is who helps watch them. ANY IDEAS??? I do not mind having gatherings here at home and it does not bother either 1 of them. I have a mess to clean, but I do not want to hurt anyone else's feelings about always having to come to me.