I have set very clear boundaries regarding spending time alone with my mother, who has Alzheimers. I will not spend time alone with her because she chronically complains about being "b*tched out" but won't say by whom. It inevidently boils to down to me; she lies to my sisters about things regarding conversations we've had, and even tells them that I'm difficult to deal with. I was the primary person taking care of my father for a year before his death in June. My sisters did help some, but I took so much time off from work, that my income loss is into the 10's of thousands. I have tried to help with my mother, but it's impossible for me spend time alone with her without my become physically ill after her complaining. This is why I have had to set this boundary. HOWEVER, the oldest sister continues to ask me to take her to appointments, has demanded and tried to order me to go to my mother's house to check on her twice a week. I clearly said no, I cannot do that. The disrespect for my answer was followed by text messages after 11:00pm stating that I MUST take care of my mother, and that there will be "consequences for my decisions". This harassment makes me physically sick to my stomach, results in a major headache to the point where I cannot sleep. I ask myself what I can do to better my situation, but I have yet to come up with an answer. I have offered support in every other way, which has included driving significant distances to hand deliver important and time-sensitive documents, obtaining signatures for those docs, and contributing to large decisions regarding my mother's future care. It's not as if I have completely turned my back on my mother and sisters. But now I really want to. The disrespctful demands and being ordered to take part in a level of care that I have stated I cannot have me ready to turn completely away from my mother and sisters. Are there any suggestions out there that might stop the harassment and threats without going to the extreme and filing a civil 'no contact" order?