My mother has always been very controlling and somewhat nasty and mean at times. She has been getting even worse over the past 5 yes or so. She is only 73 and is in terrible condition. She had two heart attacks (and drove herself to the ER because 'the neighbor's might hear sirens.' She chain smoked for 50+ yes and recently kept smoking with her oxygen on. She was taking too much Vicodin and also asking her neighbors for it. She refuses ANY help whatsoever. She doesn't clean her apartment, won't shower for months (due to lack of mobility), wears filthy clothes and always has a terrible yeast infection on her chest. She looks worse than a homeless person. My only sibling (brother) tries to help, but when it comes to confronting her about serious concern he suddenly backs out and leaves me to talk to her by myself. Recently Mom finally moved in to a senior apartment where she has fallen several times. She refuses to designate a power of attorney so we can't get any info on what is going on medically. She sits in her soiled clothing because she cannot get off the couch. She crawls to the bathroom at times. I've thrown my back out trying to help her. Well she is in and out of hospitals constantly and after most recent fall ended up in a nice rehab facility for three weeks. She was released yesterday but refused to allow staff to evaluate the safety of her apartment. While hospitalised I cleaned her filthy apartment for days. When she got home she called me yelling at me because I put some dishes in the wrong cupboards. She stated that she had been 'robbed' by me, maintenance staff and that the rehab facility 'stole' her meds (which were all sent home with her). She then called the police. Long story short no one will help her. Adult Protective services has been called a year ago (she hit a pole while driving and was randomly taking pills from a huge box, etc) and they did nothing. No one suggested psych ward. She is Not safe living alone but was sent home anyway. Also she cancelled all home care and physical therapy (because her apartment is none of their business). She is taking narcotics again is is even more mean and nasty. She told me I'm not allowed in her home ever again because I moved some of her things! I have been sober for a long time and feel on the brink of a relapse! Or a nervous breakdown at the very least. I am throwing up and can't sleep! I feel I've done all I can and more. My Dad committed suicide many years ago and she's our only parent so I feel guilty all the time. Everyone has been saying I should have cut her off years ago! I'm Sad and confused. Someone Please help!!