My MIL has now lived with us for over 6 years and has completely taken over our lives because my partner is only interested in looking after her. He is now in deep debt due to the expenses which looking after his mother and father have incurred. The father passed away a couple of years ago and had never bothered to save a penny for their old age, neither did my MIL. Perhaps it is the cultural differences that I am having a problem with but I simply cannot take this any longer. I used to get along with her but now I genuinely dislike having to be around her, I feel she has taken advantage of the situation and gives no thought to us a couple, that is if you can call us a couple any more. She had a stroke a few years ago and it seems like her son has taken this as his life mission now, to look after her and her needs only. It is such a long and twisted story that it would take forever to tell but I have felt for a long time now that I have been taken advantage of in many ways. The family is Mexican and I am from England, unfortunately I feel I have been brainwashed into thinking that it is my duty as a woman to put up with all this and either I like it or I lump it. I dont like either options to be honest, but I have no job although I am in the process of looking when I am allowed five minutes for myself. Here in Mexico it is not so easy to get a well paying job, or at least enough to pay for a rent. Basically I feel trapped here and have nowhere to go so I suppose I am in the situation of having to lump it. Being from England I have always shown the so called Stiff upper lip or tried to anyway, but lately I feel I am always mad at him and feeling resentful and have no idea how to broach the subject because of the fear that he will take it as an offense towards his mother as he usually does and then all I get are insults and offenses. What I dont understand is how he never approaches me to talk about any of this although I am sure he knows this has all has affected our relationship and is the reason for my attitude. It seems I am in a situation of psychological warfare, I cant seem to think straight anymore. Any comments are welcome. Thanks.