Father had 2 strokes. His life was a mess. No idea what to do. I'm scared and confused. Thank you for taking the time to read my story. I don't know who to turn to or ask, I don't know anyone that's been through what I'm about to tell you. As a child my alcoholic father abused myself and my mother, physically and verbally. I won't go into details, but at the age of 10-11 my mother divorced him after he threatened my life when I was trying to protect her. They received joint-custody. I never saw him again. In my mid-20's I tried to reconcile with him but it didn't work out, so I went on with my life. Now in my 30's he's had two strokes in the course of two weeks and everyone has turned to me. He stayed in the hospital for one week and was dismissed to go home, only to have the second stroke a week later. This put him in for another week. He has medicare. The hospital's social workers asked me to approve a plan of care and open up referrals to nursing homes. One replied and I was told I had to sign the agreement to pay as the Resident's Agent using his assets and income, and to help them apply for medicaid if an extended stay is necessary. If I wouldn't have signed the document I was told he would sit at the hospital and it wouldn't be covered by medicare, but that medicare would cover 20 days 100% at the nursing home. So I did what any good person did and signed them, hoping he would get better. He's not getting better, and he has no estate planning done. He has been irresponsible his whole life. Once I figured out where he lived and I went and visited his ex-wife from a year ago was there, and her grandson who is living off a couch. My father withdrew his full retirement from his accounts every month and paid everything with cash, and he's a hoarder. The smell was horrible but I bagged as many papers as I could and I've been attempting to identify his accounts. Now the nursing home's medicaid attorney would like me to get a DPOA to access his accounts to assist with the medicaid process. I would also need DPOA to access his account so I can pay his mortgage and bills. I don't want the responsibility for any of this, is there a way out? What's the right thing to do? I don't wan't to be financially liable for a man that abused me as a child and is a stranger. I'm lost.