My mother had 3 strokes 6 years ago and is miraculously doing well; most people don't notice changes. I do. And, I notice more changes recently. She just turned 81 last week.
The changes are not "Who are you?" or anything that severe. However, they concern me. I make her angry when I tell her I notice changes. She feels like she can't do anything right then I feel like crap because that is not my intent.
She suffers from nerve pain as well (not sciatica or anything of that nature - much worse) so that adds to a cognitive functioning loss; pain diminishes her functioning and everything else is so difficult.
She takes 2 pain meds once a day and I think it adds to some sort of diminishing capacity.
I don't know how to handle all these changes. I am an only child. I have therapy once a week online, but sometimes I feel like I need it daily.
I just retired 3 months ago and moved in part-time with my mom and part-time with my partner/boyfriend of 15 years. I'm glad I did, but it's hard too because she's cluttered and loses things a lot and is so much slower.
She still drives safely in the neighborhood, goes to the cafe, bookstore, and the flower shop. But I worry all the time.
I just need a forum to vent and hopefully get support.