I wanted to get some advice ...I don't know if my parents realize how much I do for them. I certainly can't tell them. After receiving several comments from this site I finally stopped going as much during the week. However, the job is twice as hard when I do go....cleaning the house once a week. I literally hurt the next day and feel exhausted for a couple of days.
My question is this...my parents will tell me they plan on driving somewhere that involves a lot of freeways and traffic. If I do not know a week in advance, I will not want to go...call me crazy but I have to know and plan. I have some agoraphobia issues. Probably after years of being on call as a flight attendant. Anyway...my parents KNOW I do not have a life...single mom. How can I feel okay about saying I cannot go? Without worrying about ALL the repercussions. They are going somewhere tomorrow and know that my plan was to clean their place? ...uggh...and my mom can be so passive aggressive that it has manipulated my entire life. But...they are not doing well. And probably won't live too much longer...so I relent and go...I do love them very much......any advice?