I see this same question been posted but still would like opinions from people. My boyfriend who had given up his full time job as a court clerk has been looking after his dad whom has dementia. Now that his dad has gone into a nursing home we appear no further on as my boyfriend is now looking after his elderly mum who is very capable but just won't stay on her own and feels very hard done by.
He is not only looking after his mum but the house and grounds and all the fetching and carrying - its never ending! I feel that the fact that his sister and brother have agreed for him to be willed the home is letting them off scott free but also dangling a carrot to keep him at home looking after his mum.
Its putting a strain on us as I feel he is going to keep me hanging on until his mum passes away and then there might be a promise of us getting on with our own lives. I don't see how I should have to come second best to a woman who enjoyed a long and happy marriage with her husband. My boyfriend is very laid back and just wants to keep everyone happy.
Thank you for taking the time to read and advise.