My father-in-law is in the end stages of emphysema/copd,as well as some dementia that could be related to alcoholism.
He has just arrived home from a three week stay at a physical rehab., facility ( nursing home too ) and before that he spent two weeks in the hospital, due to a severe infection in his lung.
While at the rehab. center he was doing so good. He looked better than I have ever seen him look, was clean and seemed happy. He was suppose to stay an additional three weeks longer, but for some reason decidied he wanted to come home early. ( I believe he was doing so good because he was not drinking alcohol).
Currently he is receiving in home care ( physical therapy and a nurses aid to help bathe him ), but that will only last for a limited time, maybe three weeks. My concern is, because I know him so well, that he will stop doing any type of exercise/moving and slip back into his deplorable lack of hygiene as well as continue to drink more. He finally agreed to allow a hospice rep., to speak to him, to continue some care at home.
His doctors and our friends feel he should be in a nursing home. so does my husband, when he slips back. What do you do if a parent refuses to go? I have made it very aware and known, that I CANNOT take care of him when he can know longer get out of bed and have some level of independance ( mainly using the bathroom and keeping clean).
What are the steps if a parent refuses to go into a nursing home? He is not able to even be in a ssisted living because he demands so much care,