Ever since my husband died about 11 years ago, my kids have asked me to move in with them. In fact, my daughter and I had a struggle with what she wanted vs. what I wanted....to live alone. My younger daughter is a school teacher and I KNOW I would not live with her. She and her husband could use the financial support, but I see the handwriting on the wall living with them. It would not work. However, my son and his wife have been also asking me to move in with them for years. My home is presently in a very beautiful place but it is SO far away from my kids. The medical is about 200 miles round trip. My older daughter has quit asking me to move near her. Now she would settle for me to have an apt near them. (to expensive for me). My son has been consistent on asking me to move in with them. Neither of my children are in need of financial help. Their real purpose in asking me to move in with them was "they love me" and hate to see me so far away. I love my daughter in law. I have said to them for many times, it is not good for a parent to live with their children if they can avoid it. Recently, my son had a major surgery. He is doing well. I stayed with my son and his wife for about two months during his life or death health issue. That two months was a wonderful experience. HOWEVER, I do feel like my freedom could be compromised. This is a sort of backwards situation. I don't need a caregiver NOW. I will be 75 in a couple of months and have enjoyed excellent health. I have weighed the issue back and forth. An apartment near them is out of the question. Most apartments have kids....way to many kids. I am not interested in Independent living. I am afraid it would be the end of me. I normally can go for a couple of years not seeing my kids. They are far to busy at this time in their lives to travel to where I live. "middle of nowhere". I am at a loss as to what I should do. Three choices....1) stay where I am presently living and see my kids very seldom. 2) take an apartment and tolerate the children in the complex. 3) Move in with my kids. Wow what a decision I have to make. Has anyone experienced living with their kids when I really do not need the physical support? They are not asking for anything from me financially. However, we could buy a larger home with my funds joined with theirs. Any thoughts?