So, I have been living with my grandmother since I was 2, for my mam had to work. At 10, grandmaa and I moved in with mam and the problem began. It's been 9 years since that. My grandmother is currently diagnosed with dementia and the docs are testing her of Alzheimer. She talks alone with someone who's not there. She asks thinks in a whisper and replyies in a louder voice. She started doing this secretly but now she does it openly in front of us. She is manipulative, obsessed with control (when mam or I go out, she leaves her bedroom door open until we're back, no matter if it's 5am.) She says she hears her deceased aunt calling her. She has turned into a food shopaholic and since my mother told her not to buy so much, she started hiding what she buys in her wardrobe. She makes our lives a living hell, insults us, tells us to f*** off, calls us whores and sluts. Once, she said she was going to throw herself out of the balcony and mam and I blocked the balcony entrance so she started to hit my mother and I had to stop her. She wakes up at 5am just to do "house chores" for she says she HAS to help us. We have told her a thousand times that she hasn't have to do anything but she feels it's her way of "paying" us for living in our home (she refuses to call it her home, no matter how hard we have tried to make her feel integrated.) She always says it's not her home but she throws away things we like, no matter if we want to keep it and she does whatever she wants. She is obsessive with order. Back to the 5 am subject, she wakes up at 5am to do "her" chores and wakes both mam and me and gets mad and manipulative if we tell her she woke us up and why not to do it at 8am for instance. She cannot see us resting. If she sees we are sitting in the couch or taking a nap, she comes up with things to do such as do the laudry right now. She HATES it when we are on our phone, reading or using our laptops. It is horrible. Both, mam and I suffer from anxiety ever since this started. We don't know what to do. When her other sons and daughters tell her to go to eat with them, she finds an excuse or downright declines. She refuses to leave the house even for a day because she fears my mam is going to bring a "boyfriend" or "friend" inside while she is out. We don't know what to do.