Mom was diagnosed with dementia a few years ago and things are progressing. I am her medical and financial POA. She really needs to be in a nursing home before things get worse, but I seriously doubt that she'll agree.
She's been living with us for the past few years. At what point in time do I have to be the one to make this decision for her? There are times when she seems on the ball, but there are times when she tries to leave, to go "home."
She has zero assets and very, very little money so wherever she goes it will be on the government's dime. :( I'm going to get in contact with our state's long term care, but was hoping someone here could give some advice.
I never asked her if she wanted to do something because it would be NO. I just did it. Your Mom can't make decisions anymore. Thats why your POA. Your decisions will be what is best for Mom and you.
You also need to think about your own relationship, you say she lives "with us". How does that person see the future with your mother ?
It is no shame to admit you can't help any more, you can see from this forum how carer burnout is common.
My advice is don't leave it too late. Start to take advice from many sources now to see what the options are. Good luck.