I'm not talking about abandoning mom, I am the last relative living in my mothers family, mom's 85 she'll be 86 come Jan.
Mom has developed full on Dementia, she left the house went to the Hospital then NH rehab and after 24 short days she came home a completely different person.
Tues is yet another followup with her doctor where I'll hopefully get more answers .
I've been a full time caregiver for over ten years first dad now mom so I've got Zero in assets, no money, home or vehicle pretty much would be leaving with very little belongings if that was the route I choose to take.
I have control over mom's finances and she does owe me money.
The question becomes Medicaid wants to take everything of value before they'll even consider stepping in, if I can somehow make it to the first of the year I maybe able to move some money around and build enough to head back to my home state live out of the car for awhile and hopefully rebound......... anyone got any other ideas.
Obviously getting a job to help pull this off is out of the question, the home sits on leased land I couldn't afford the lot fees much less keeping this place together AC is on it's way out yet again, 3rd time in past year, I have backup AC's so we won't sweat and of course Leased Land is a dirty word to Medicaid so they want nothing to do with it.
I really don't know what to do no one in this state of Fla can help it's all about the money with these folk.
My last ditched effort is going to be hospice at this point but that only comes to reality if mom's doctor signs off on it.
I'm desperate and alone at this point I've talked with most of the surviving relatives that aren't immediate family and they've all said I need to do whats right for me however I can make it happen.
Mom's condition went from pretty much being independent with aid to she can't do anything without help, feeding, dressing bathroom, bathing everything she was doing before the hospital / NH stay is gone I've been given back a shell and told good luck by these people.
I don't really know what to do, any help would be appreciated.
Hope I posted this in the right category.
Hope I don't sound like a monster I truly though we had more time.