2 1/2 years ago, about a year after our step-mother passed away, it was evident dad couldn't safely remain in his house. Physically he was deteriorating, but his mind was sharp as ever.
My sister (68 now) had a place worked out at Assisted Living for him, but at the last minute he said he didn't want to go. So she ended up putting him up in a room in her house.
Over time it has grown to be too much for her. He is starting to fall a bit more frequently, and it is difficult for her to help him as she also has some lingering health issues (bad knees among them).
My wife and I both work FT, and don't have room in our house for him, and honestly could not do what she has done for him.
Every once in a while my sister will text a vent, but today when she texted, it really concerned me. She mentioned thoughts of suicide or disappearing (which she said she knew she couldn't), but she felt like she didn't have a life.
She has said dad says he never wants to go into a nursing facility, but I know he wouldn't want her life ruined.
I think we need to sit down and explain what this is doing to her, and see if this has an impact on his thinking about being relocated to a facility.
Open to thoughts, ideas, etc from those that may have gone down this path already.