Hey there, I'm 25 and I've been a caregiver for 5 months for my grandma who is 84 (suffers from dementia and hepatic encephalopathy) and I feel like everything is going downhill for me. I will soon develop inguinal hernia due to lifting her all day (I'm quite on the skinny side and she's heavier than me) and I have a ongoing mild pain in my abdomen every day due to this.
I'm taking care of her full time, I never get proper sleep at night, I can't work on my projects as I want to because I'm super stressed the whole time as she can't do anything on her own.
The thing here is that she has 3 kids that are all working and they don't want to take her to a care center and they want to let me do this instead (I had a chat about this with them and they don't want any other options). They donated me my grandma's house but I don't feel like this is worth it for me at all as I'd rather pay rent and live my life the way I want to. I feel like they did this donation just to get me locked up with my grandma.
My grandma raised me since I was 6 months old and I feel really bad for wanting to do this but this is just too hard for me and it's their fault for having the wrong thinking, not me.
I feel like giving them a deadline soon and just leave after and never care about them and start working on my life instead of going through depression and worsen my health condition. My father doesn't care either and he always was a selfish person so I won't feel bad for this (I don't have a mother, my parents split up due to my dad's toxic behaviour)
What are your thoughts on this ?
I live in a super toxic environment and this is not right.
Btw, I'm from Romania so there's no institution that can help me with this besides leaving.