So, my partners grandfather died 4 years ago. He was good enough to leave his wife quite a bit of money to ensure she was well looked after. Unfortunately since then she has changed completely, i would definitely say she has the onset of alzheimers, constantly repeating herself, forgetting what shes done the previous day the extreme example is she has a set of instructions on how to make a cup of tea taped to her cupboard door. Rotting food has been found in her fridge and she never has any food in. When she was quite young she was involved with another man and he got back in contact after her husband passed away. It seemed innocent even sweet at first, but then she began telling us about the things she had bought for him... A car, a boat amongst other things and now we have discovered she has next to no money left. Now i have known this woman for 4 years and her house is payed up she has only a few bills to pay and doesn't really spend anything other than that. The bills she pays wouldn't have used up all the money she was left and she still gets her pension every week. The problem we have is she refuses anyones help, she has refused to let someone create a joint bank account with her so they can help her with her money, she wont move out her house and she lives quite far away from the family so shes all alone with her cat. We're kind of at our wits end as shes now denying that she gave any money to this man even though shes told me, my partner and his siblings about what she has bought multiple times. She claims she has been to the doctors, then she said she never went and now shes saying that shes been cleared of any memory problems which none of us believe. We dont know what to do for the best without upsetting her or going behind her back. The problem is most of us work or have children to look after and so cant keep a good enough eye on her to see if she has been to the doctors or what money shes spending now. We have debated going to the police but were wondering if she'll deny it all and if they'll even be able to do anything. Any help would be greatly appreciated.