New to this site, asking for advise. Where do I begin, mom and dad are both in their late 80s, have been doing well on their own until recently. Dad suffered a strike many yrs ago effect his speech and right side, does well on his own until his headaches and dizzyness knock him down. He refuses to go to see a dr. Takes aparin like its candy He is a very stubborn man. His motto has always been FIRST ME, THAN ME, ALWAYS ME! Now on to mom- Mom sufferes from epilepsy has manage well until recently forget to take meds has has 2 seizures in a week and has beginning stage of dementia. Both parents lived with my uncle until a month ago (he passed away) so now They are with me. I have not told them it for good, they think its a get away vacation. They cannot be alone when mom has a seizure all dad does is cry, he cannot help her in any way. When dad get his headaches or get dizzy mom cries and give him asparin. I di have a dr appointment next week for both.
I really don't know if I should start hinting that they will be living with me or go a day at a time. I honestly think if I tell dad he might get so mad her might hit me, hate me ir run away and for mom she if course will sude with him. Dont know what to do, all I do know is they cannot be alone. Reasoning is out of the question when it come to them. I know its only the beginning.