Dad died Nov 2012. Since then, she has moved in with my husband and I in our home. She and Dad had an extremely co-dependent relationship. One would do nothing without the other. They had no outside interests, just lived attached to one another. Now, mother wants me to share that co-dependent life w/her. Since leaving home and marrying in 1968, I have become an independent person even though I love my husband. My husband and I have now been married 45 years and feel our relationship is normal. My husband is resenting my mother's constant pull on me. She wants to know where I am at all times even in the house. If I go to the store without her, she will pace the floor until I return. I guess she doesn't know how to live independent of another person and that person is now me. I am disabled having undergone 5 spinal surgeries in the last 8 years and am in constant excruciating pain. Physically, she is in better shape than I am. We used all our money on caregivers for my dad. She refused to put him in a nursing home (he had Alzheimers) and he died bedridden with 24/7 private paid help. So we have no funds to place her anywhere else. I don't think she would go anyhow. She had a fit when I casually mentioned it. The care she requires on a daily basis is meals, help dressing, and bathing. We have to watch her carefully on her walker as she is a high fall risk. How do I break the pattern of her constant smothering of me? So far, there have been times when she has been ridiculous about what I'm doing or where I am and I've had to get almost ugly with her to get her to let me have some of my life back. It is a constant battle and I feel caught in the middle. I love her and want to do what's right, but am totally frustrated with her, Thank you for any help you might give.