My dad moved in with me, then I got married. Dad had a stroke, # 4 and third heart attack, while on his job. He lost his job, due to endangering others on the road. So he moved in with me.
He did not raise me, so I thought we could get to know one another.
He has been with me for two years. He does not take his meds, he sleeps all day, and he does not make it to the bathroom in time and blames the dog for urinating on the floor. I set up appointments for him, he does not go. I pay for his meds, does not take them. He refuses to clean up after himself nor cares for himself, like showering.
My husband is great with him, but he cares for his mother also. She lives at her own home. I have two brothers who refuse to help.
I have talked to him about assistant living. He does not want to hear it.
He is 61 years old. I teach special needs kids and I worry about him being alone.
I do not know if alot of his issues are manipulation or he does have medical concerns.
I have repeatly told him... I can not help you if you are not willing to help yourself.