On the first of October my mom called me crying because she couldn't deal with her boyfriend anymore. He was treating her badly, taking advantage of her, couldn't keep a job. My fiance and I discussed letting her live with us and we both agreed that it would be okay until she could get back on her feet because she didn't have anywhere else to go. I am an only child and we don't have very many people in our family especially anyone with the resources to let her move in with them.
Well it's the middle of January now and she is still with us. She got back together with her boyfriend about 2 months ago and has been staying there occasionally. He has been treating her a lot better and not taking advantage of her anymore, being a lot more loving and things. When this started my fiance said that the first month she shouldn't worry about paying us anything and should just worry about getting caught up on the bills that she was so far behind on. But it's been almost 4 months and she still hasn't been helping us at all. She has a low income and doesn't have an opportunity to increase her income at all. She has always helped with chores around the house however.
Now my fiance is to the point where he can't handle this anymore. There is no way she can live on her own, and although her boyfriend has been doing a lot better with feelings and acting towards her he still can't keep a job, partly because of a heart condition he has. He is thinking about moving to Iowa where he has family and mom is torn between going with him or not. My fiance and I were in the process of discussing moving 2 hours away for his job and she can't come with us, but she can't stay here by herself either.
She doesn't know if she should go with her boyfriend or try and look into low income housing here and be all by herself. I don't think she will be able to afford even low income housing.
My fiance is leaving me because he feels that we will always be supporting my mom and he can't handle the stress of that. He has a daughter that he has to support also. I feel like I can't kick my mom out, but I really don't want to lose my fiance either. I really am at the end of my rope and I do not know what to do.
If anyone has any advice at all or would like any clarification on anything I would definitely appreciate it. Thank you.