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When every time I do my mother gets upset about being home by herself. What do I do? Its just me and my mom living together so when I need to go out she's home alone. When I get back home she's crying about being home all day by her self. But yet I can't get her to go anywhere with me, because I have to push her in a wheelchair. My mom had 3 strokes. I just need someone to talk to every now and then to keep me going.

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P.S. It would probably be like getting a child to go to bed at a set time. The first few times you make them go to bed and stick to your guns, they're going to test you and scream and cry and act like they'll never adjust or accept this new rule. When you continue to put them to bed and they see there's no reaction on your part to their dramatics, they'll eventually give up and get with the program. Your mom would probably be the same. She'll test you at first and when she sees you're going to continue going out (and coming back home) and reacting with love but not stay home with her, she'll adjust to it. Good luck and keep us posted.
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I'm not sure why the wheelchair is a problem. Is it too much for you to handle? Get a companion/transport chair. I have one in my trunk all of the time to take my mom out.

But I agree with what others here have said. You have a RIGHT to get time away from your mom, whether she gets fussed up about it or not. Do you get everything you want in life? Probably not. None of us do. Your mom wants you to stay home with her all of the time. Sorry, that's not possible or good for you.

When you were a child and you didn't want your mom to go to the store, would she have said, "OK" and just stayed home with you? I don't think so. Either get someone to come in and sit with mom, take her out with you on occasion or go on your own. You don't have to be with her 24/7. You have an absolute right to have time away from mom for your own mental health.
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JG said it - "Being her caregiver doesn't mean you will never allow her to be upset."

She has the right to get upset and fuss. She deserves to have you show you care and fuss over her when you get home, but you don't need to feel guilty.

(Ha! We live and breathe with guilt!)

You do need to get away. Can she afford a companion once or twice a week? She may not like it, but she may really enjoy a new face.
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Regardless of her reaction you NEED to get away sometimes. If she really should not be left alone -- if she is a risk to herself -- arrange for someone else to stay with her. If she is OK alone for a few hours, just go. She may be upset when you get back. Do the best you can to reassure her that you'll always come home, that you love her and will continue to do your best to take care of her, but that you need some time on your own, too.

Being her caregiver doesn't mean you will never allow her to be upset.
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You mention you can't get her to go anywhere with you because you have to push her in a wheelchair.... is she self-conscience that others would be looking at her? Or she doesn't want to be a burden? Is there some place the both of you can go where there wouldn't be a lot of people around, and still give you both a chance to get out of the house?

Is there a local senior center that your Mom might like to visit, some have one day a week where they offer a free movie.... where you can drop her off, get her settled, and pick her up later? She can make new friends if she wishes, and get to look forward to going. It all depends on her personality if she would like that.... I know my Mom wouldn't, but Dad would go in a heart beat.
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Give her anti-anxiety medications. Lorazepam will kick in within 15 minutes and last for about four hours. Give her things to do while you are gone. Tell her what time you will be back and stick to it. Have music she likes playing in the background. Arrange for others to call her and keep her amused via phone.
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Could you get someone to sit with her when you go out? Maybe schedule home care a couple hours a week?

You definitely need time to yourself.. Good luck..
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