Major dysfunctional family unit. Anyone have constructive input? -

Major dysfunctional family unit. Anyone have constructive input?


I could really use some constructive input. My sister was recently appointed legal guardian of my 81-year-old father who is now in a nursing home. She lives out of state and I'm the closest relative that can visit him. Since guardianship was given, her contractor husband and his nephew are planning to travel here to make repairs on my father's home to sell it. The home is in very poor condition and needs extensive work (roof replacement, termite treatment, carpet replacement, plumbing, painting, etc.). I e-mailed the court auditor and asked if he could expense his travel, extended hotel stay, meals, materials, hiring local help to the estate or have to wait until the home is sold. The auditor said they normally don't approve home repairs in a guardianship case and that prior approval would be required. The auditor must have contacted her attorney about my e-mail because when my sister got wind of it, she blew up and said "don't contact me anymore -- you think twice before you shoot out e-mails and you just cost yourself $ by the lawyer calling us about YOU and your usual sh** stirring. You have no go away." Even though they're required to submit one bid, her husband was going to do the job and make a nice profit from it. My concern with this is the self-dealing I feel is going on with their plan to utilize my father's estate to pay for his travel expenses, materials, labor, and hiring local help to get the job done. The court auditor commented selling the house as-is and the funds will be added to his estate for his medical care. This makes sense to me, but my sister went ballistic when she found out I contacted the court. This severed our relationship (which wasn't that great to begin with). Your thoughts?

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While it will further piss your sister off - but really, aren't you about maxed anyhow - you should call your sisters attorney and express your concerns.

In guardianship situations, usually when there is going to be a large sum of money involved the guardian must get pre-approval from a judge. This is pretty much what the clerk said. Then - a guardian has to submit a yearly required report to the court telling of the years events as they relate to the person, their health and their financial situation. How much money started the year - how much ending - and what major expenses there were. Your sister is putting her role as guardian in jeopardy to not follow these guidelines.

Or - you could just stay out or it.
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You did the right thing contacting the court. Sell as is. If dad was living there that would be one thing.
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