I'm a very upset and concerned niece whose aunt is in nursing home. I go at least once a week to check in and see her. I'm so upset with her kids and husband (my uncle and cousins) that I could puke. A few months ago she was living at home with falls and husband would call son and son in law who live very close to help pick her up when legs gave out. This was interfering with daughter in law/and sons life that them and uncle decide to trick aunt (who was continent unless leakage and legs couldn't hold her long) into getting on a van, with my poor aunt thinking she was going shopping, and took her straight to a nursing home, and there she's been for about 6 or 7 months to where she has cried that they lied to her, didn't want the burden of her being around them anymore, and that husband wanted freedom. She is 84 he is 93, and ya know what??? This that she feels is the truth...She's supposed to be on hospice, and in my past of 30 yrs in healthcare, I knew hospice to just keep patient comfortable and discontinue her maintenance meds she was always on. Well there's no need for hospice, she had gotten it maybe 3 or 4 yrs ago with a heart attack and they've left her on it, with many, many of her daily meds she's been on for years. She always begs husband to take her back home and he shoots her down quickly due to enjoying his peace and quiet at home. He goes to nursing home to see her and lets her sleep so he can watch her cable tv and run back and fourth to little store in facility buying himself snacks all day. Oh and eats her meals brought to her because she very seldom wants to eat. NOW, all this time later, she is slowly slipping away from us because of her nerves and wants to be home where she could with round the clock care, that was never looked into. She is slowly dying inside and I watch this and it's causing me to do the same. How can family be so sick and selfish!! I have so much hate for my uncle and cousins that I can't talk to them or see them!