I've been caring for my roommates (ex gf) mom now for 11 months and not working. I lost my job (job eliminated) effec. 2/1/2013. I told my roommate I would help her in Feb. 2013 get things worked out after her stepdad passed. I'm still here! I have exhausted nearly all of my savings. ( I'm 52 yrs old). For the first 7 months I was traveling back to where I live a couple of times a month to help my roommate. Other than that I have been with her mom 1 1/2 hrs away pretty much 24/7. If I need to bring in a caregiver so I can leave I am expected to pay for it. I pay for all her housing upkeep and groceries as well. Her mom is 76 yrs old, disabled (can't walk) and has dementia. She needs 24/7 care. Her daughter (me ex gf/gf) was only visiting her mom an average of 5 days a month until the middle of Sept. and now is there as often as I am. Her daughter has not been doing the things she needs to in order for her mom to be taken care of properly. I had everything set up for her, she just needed to follow thru. I feel sorry for both of them but at wits end. Her daughter has ADHD and is in chronic pain with her back and a condition diagnosed as a form of Vulvydinia. I don't feel like she is doing everything she can to help herself, little alone her mom. She starts therapy, then quits. Things the Dr tells her to do, she doesn't do. Her only solution so far has been pain pills(a bunch!) she may be using them for the pain but I think is using them to escape resposibility as well. I've talked to local social services as well to see if they could lend ger guidance but she doesn't take their calls or return them. Everything she attempts to do she drops the ball and procrastinates until the last second. I feel sorry for them but feel as if I have been taken advantage of as well as taken for granted. I want my life back! I don't feel it's my responsibilty. I'm ready to just walk and let nature take its course. I need to rebuild my life and start working again. Thoughts? Am I wrong?