As I have posted earlier, I have unexpectedly become my Aunts caregiver. To try and make a long story short, my cousin who is diabetic, alcoholic and by all accounts mentally ill has been living in their garage for over ten years. It appears that he has been basically holding them hostage. They couldn't leave him, because nobody was willing to come stay with him. When my Uncle passed away, fortunately my cousin was in the hospital at the same time. I was able to get a restraining order against my cousin after my brother witnessed him trying to swing at my Aunt and the verbal abuse he doled out. Her friends had told us they were afraid for her. Even with all that I have been told about my cousins abuse, my Aunt of course doesn't remember. She misses him terribly. I have tried to talk to her about moving from California to Montana to be close to me, but she refuses. She doesn't want to leave him. She has no idea where he is. Of course she doesn't remember that he is in a homeless shelter. She wants so desperately to talk to him.
So do I get her new phone number to him (she's been placed in assisted living), or do I continue to play dumb? Deep down I know that no good will truly come from it, but it is causing me heartache and stress.
Any advice would be most appreciated!