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We try to distract, explain and show but she is on repeat. The absolute best showtimer, her Dr even falls for it. The caregiver and I both stand in awe of her performances.
I even find myself wondering if this is more about the overdose of Advane and Clorzpam for 30 years, in conjunction with the dementia which I have read menic’s dementia but of course the current Dr’s though all new want no part of this conversation.
Will not allow me to clean out refrigerator filled with food well past freshness date, thankfully we did disconnect the stove and she isn’t great at microwave cooking.
wears same clothes over and over. Takes French sink baths. Can not tell the truth but has always been this way, not certain if she is skitzo or bi-polar. Can not get her to speak with anyone. Doesn’t want anyone in her home, often including me. Paranoid, looses thing daily and thinks someone is stealing from her, broom, dustpan , hangers, cat food on and on . Thankfully she did give me the bills to pay but gets hateful when I remind her of her checking balance, I think she expects me to pay for her expenses as she is saving to buy another car( I had to get ride of hers) and recently renewed her drivers license inspite of her caregiver.
if you have no solutions and have read my posts before, thank you for allowing my rant, this is a long distance situation and worries me more than I can express however I do understand so many of us have our hands tied until the “big event”



I can only pray the Alzheimer’s/Dementia groups can rattle enough chains to better care for our families that are struggling with all these diseases bring. My personal stress level is over the top watching from afar and trying to help… input or prayers greatly appreciated!

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Stop helping. She has a caregiver. Why is the caregiver not making sure she bathes and dresses in clean clothes? Why isn't she cleaning out the refrigerator? This caregiver doesn't seem like a professional because the professionals know how to get things done. Your mom deserves better.

Clean out the refrigerator no matter what mom says, she'll forget about it anyway.

She can't live alone anymore! NO MORE! Get her out of there!
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What about taking her somewhere before her next doctor appointment so she can showtime at the first place and be tired when she gets to the doctor? Just a thought— I’m not sure it’s feasible
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97yroldmom Aug 2023
Worth a try
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Yep time to get Mom to neurologist if she is not already going to one. Get those tests done and find a nice place for her. Its not fair to you to get stressed out over this.
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Why is the caregiver enabling her demented behavior by taking her to the store every other day and allowing her to buy things she doesn't need?
Perhaps you need to hire a new caregiver that is better able to redirect her when she gets stuck in these loops.
And I'm sure you already know that your mom should NOT be living by herself at this point, and yes it's very tragic that a lot of folks have to wait for some kind of "event" to happen before the family can take some kind of action.
Perhaps it's time you make a trip to your moms for a month or so and get the ball rolling towards getting her placed before the event happens. I'm just saying.
I wish you well in getting all of this figured out.
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