Since my mother is refusing meds (everything poison) & I can’t hide it ..trying to hide it in mini muffin, or chocolate pudding or ice cream…she won’t take that either now. My mother & I live together & I’m her primary caregiver…I have private pay aide between 35 -40 hours a week. I’m her only daughter that takes care of her…
We transfer her with stand assist lift, to wheelchair & back to bed.
She’s been screaming my name all morning for me to call police to find my father…who she said went to work & didn’t come home…(he died in 1992). She also wants to call my Grandma (died in 1998) If I can get her to take calming meds …she’d be calm …I also can’t get the Alzheimer’s meds into her! Then when I go in front of her …she still screaming for me …she says I’m not her daughter…I’m an orphan from agency. She said I stole her daughter’s information..Also she keeps trying to escape wheelchair &/or bed. So I can’t really do anything else but sit & watch her.
I took her out of nursing home 4 years & 2 months ago…& been home ever since except for fall/ER/ needed stitches…then short term rehab this past February. I took her home again…but having a very difficult time now.
I just needed to vent. It seems I’m better giving advice to others than myself.
Any feedback welcome 🤗.. thanks
CaregiverL
You're past that. You absolutely cannot do this anymore. I'm sorry.
Call 911 the next time she is agitated and have them take her to the ER. Then you can start the process of going from hospital straight to a facility. The social workers at the hospital will try to get you to bring her home. Refuse it no matter how much they urge you to take her. She is not safe in your home because she is unmanageable in your home, and will not do what is needed to keep her stable.
Hugs 🤗
The fact that you can not get medications of any type into her makes it difficult if not impossible to deal with anxiety.
sorry that I don't have a better idea for you.
Your mother is in a crisis situation and needs medication to calm her down asap.
You've gotten some great advice, I just wanted to wish you luck and send you a hug.
Hugs 🤗 back!
You now have to do not only what's best for your mom, but also what's best for you as well. Wishing you the best in this tough situation.
I am sorry. This is so sad for you both.
Neither one of you is living much of a life right now. It sounds pretty hellish, actually.
Maybe it’s time to let go of your current arrangements and go back to just being your Mom’s daughter.
Best wishes to you.
My 99-yr old aunt started doing something similar where she yells "Help me!" at the top of her lungs randomly (even when you're not doing anything to her). I had to take her to the bank so I could be added to her account, but left her in the car as she's not very mobile. Long story short, "someone" called the police while I was inside with the clerk. I wish you much wisdom and peace in your heart as you ponder how to move forward.