My 99 year old mother fell about a month ago and fractured her hip. She was living in Assisted Living. She has had multiple falls and injuries in the past. She had always participated willingly and fully in physical therapy she even seemed to enjoy the attention at times. With this new injury everthing has changed. She does not want to do the therapy, she does not want to get out of bed. She seems to have given up and feels there is no reason to make any effort. The therapists force her to try and stand, the goal is to allow her to at least stand and transfer so the hoyer lift (which frightens her) will no longer be necessary.
The last month since the fall has been one of non-stop physical, mental and emotional torture. All for her own good.
Her Dr. put her on anti depressants but so far they have made no difference.
So my question, is there a time we respect the wishes of the person, even if dementia and depression affect her thinking? Should we continue forcing her to do therapy in the hope that she will be more mobile eventually? There has been some improvement as she can now stand for a minute or so with support from the therapist.