It's an unsettling way to live.
My mom is not considered incompetent event though she does have dementia, diagnosed last Spring.
She has made it crystal clear that she and she alone runs her life. (But be available when she needs help)
I could list 20 things but last eve during dinner twice I wanted to scream. First a nurse from her primary care doctor called to see how she was doing. Her PC doctor has tried to be more pro-active with my mom and her issues and enrolled her in a program that basically follows and monitors health issues. This is a very good thing. Well my mom could not have been more rude to the nurse. My mom stepped into the other room and got even meaner and told her to "NEVER call AGAIN". Then came out and proudly told me and my husband how she took care of that! No more calls to bother her! I wanted to vomit.
Then later she starts talking about her cottage and going there this Spring. I've already mentioned here that I don't feel she is safe to be there alone. Then my mom tells us she is going to keep the cottage and keep going so she can keep driving. (PA licenses need renewed every two years).
Again I could feel myself getting so angry, she should not be driving now! My husband briefly said something about there being problems with her having declared PA as her official residency (to get the license) and taxes and my mom just looked at him and said "I don't care".
I did not confront her, because it only gets worse. My mom can become enraged.
I'm always wondering how much bad behavior I will have to watch before she implodes and I am left to pick up the pieces.
Anyone else feel stuck like this?