My name is Darena, from Bulgaria, and really concerned about my 85 years old granny.
Recently, she’s not been doing very well living on her own, so my parents put her in a medical center, and her condition has slightly been improving.
However, issues with her do exist.
The nurses have been complaining she never lets them help her in any way, instead insisting she did everything on her own. They claim she kicks them out of the room each time they try to help her with changing the diapers or with showering, for example. She tears the diapers into pieces, lies to my parents that she showers when clearly she doesn’t, and constantly repeats she’s “not a baby and I don’t need help”. Trying to convince her in the opposite has proven to be impossible, and the results from her actions affect us, her and the nurses, who get underpaid when they are kept back from completing their job duties.
Has anyone got any ideas how we can improve the situation?
We have discussed getting her back at her home, but it’s unsafe and she refuses to let anyone stay there a whole night, at her current location she also refuses to have nurses just stand aside and watch her so she doesn’t get hurt, and we can’t take her live with us, because there’s no space for everyone in our apartment, and we are afraid we don’t have the education needed to supervise her when she requires help.