Mom moved two blocks away from me one year ago and was independent, if demanding and clingy. Three months later she started getting sick and this summer had a PEG tube inserted and takes all nourishment and meds through that. The doctors refuse to do any further tests as they are satisfied with "degenerative neurological disease." She can't talk, she can't swallow, she drags her feet, falls down a lot, is intermittently incontinent, but has no dementia (never tested either). I have no POA or access to her money, she still tries to pay all her bills and I have to ask for reimbursement if I go buy her something,like her depends underwear.
I hate caring for her. If I had liked medicine, I would have gone to med school. She is not a nice person and her personality has changed, too. Her care has cost me a side job which I loved, and quite a bit of money in other ways. I resent her.
My sister helps a bit, my five brothers disn't even call her on Thanksgiving. I don't want to care for her in her house anymore, but if I dont go, no one will feed her. I don't even want to be responsible for private nurses because when things go wrong, I will be left holding the bag. I absolutely do not want to give up more of my middle age. I never had children (not by choice) so there's no paying it forward, or karma or anything to make me feel better, either.
How do I get out of this responsibility legally?