Hi, new here. My Mom has lived with my husband and myself for 11 years. The last 5 years were rough and we got the diagnosis of vascular dementia. The last 3 years have been a downhill slide but the last 1 has been hardest. My husband works out of town and is home on the weekends. My sister will help twice a year for 2 weeks. Brother is in denial. I have had help with a day care center for 4 hours a day and some help with a home sitter. It is now to the point that Mom has to have help with all her ADL's and I am having a hard time continuing care. I feel guilty but have to think of myself and my health as well. My stress level is out of this world and has now raised my BP to unhealthy ranges. So, I have discussed care with my sister and we have decided to place Mom in a nursing home soon. What I don't know is how to discuss this with Mom and how to prepare for this time/day. I realize that is situation is only going to continue to decline but I never thought I would place my Mom. Any ideas? Thanks for opinions in advance!