My mother has been in a memory care facility for 2 years. I am her main caregiver. I have two brothers that live far away. One comes 3 to 4 times a year and talks weekly with mom. The other visits once a year (if that) and talks occasionally. This one is retired and wealthy enough to to fly in once a month if he wanted to. On the rare occasion when he does come to visits it is only because it was conveniently on his way to some other destination. He flies in, stays a day, then flies out. After he has visited mom, he talks to me like he is updating me on her situation, like I'm not involved in her life 24/7. She has recently had pneumonia and a blood infection that sent her to a nursing home for rehab after the hospital stay. He came and saw her and criticized the food they where serving her, saying it was horrible. Surprisingly the food is very good. I asked him if he tasted it and he made a face and said "a no."He is constantly texting photos of gourmet food he is eating or preparing, which has gotten very annoying. You would think that you have just saw your mother in a nursing home and you think the food is garbage, why send more fancy food photos. Maybe I am too involved, maybe this has taken over my life and I can't seem to look past my mom's situation, but I feel he has no empathy for her. It's not just the food photos it's everything. He once that just "caring" about mom was enough, he didn't have to visit her a lot. My husband says he is oblivious to my mom's situation and I should just except it and forget it, he is what he is. I know he is right but the anger is building up inside. Some may say I'm jealous that I'm stuck as caregiver and not removed from the situation, but I would rather be here. I'll never regret it. I just don't understand how a son can act that way.