Up until 2 months ago my husband and I have been doing our best to care for my parents. My Dad has Parkinson’s and Dementia, they are both 86 yrs old....in November my sister (who is bipolar) took them two hours away to her house, supposedly just temporary at the time, now she has convinced my mother to purchase a half million dollar home to protect their assets...(my husband and I had told my mother not to worry about it now, just please use the money to help with in home care and that we will stay close by to help. My sister is not stable, she went off on an anger binge to our daughter a few days back, saying horrible and vicious things about my husband and I (I believe she is going into a mania, after spending the entire summer depressed) We are very concerned for my parents, it is obvious she is trying to control every decision, and discounts any thing we say or suggest.
My mother is a very meek and naive person her entire life, she refuses to believe that my sister is mentally not stable (even though she has been treated for 30 yrs for BPD) ...my mother says, your sister is lonely so that is why they are staying there, we have many concerns, do we have any rights at all? Thank you
That could be the reasoning behind this latest fiasco. BUT your question is do you and your husband have any rights? I do think you do if you are the POA. You say it’s a shared POA, so your sister has rights as well. Call the lawyer who helped you draw up the POA document and tell him your story. Emphasize the reasons you disagree with sister’s ideas. I am just learning about this maze of legalities surrounding care of the elderly myself but from what I’ve learned you DO have rights.
Is your sister just bipolar or does she have this and borderline personality disorder? If she has both, that is a bad combination of emotional instability.
Your mother does not need a $500,000 dollar house. That money would be better spent on your dad's care and her care and let the house go to Medicaid if that is ever needed for one or each of them.