A two time veteran in his 80's who has dementia, needs to be in a veteran's nursing home. He isn't Medicaid eligible nor does he have any resources other than an SSA check.
I've applied for his pension, but not for military benefits.
He is a hoarder, very controlling, won't allow his house to be cleaned, won't allow anything to be thrown away, including garbage. His house and property are filthy.
The basement is filled with water and feces. He says he only has a "water leak in the kitchen. " He won't allow anyone to come in except close family members.
He believes he sees dead people and aliens. While he was hospitalized, all his weapons were removed from the home (by our military family) and he's demanding they be returned.
He can't recall the day, date or year. The only thing he remembers is his weapons and the wars he was in.
He goes to the bathroom and soils everything. He threw away all the food I had in the fridge.
He gropes himself at times, talks about suicide and may have sexually assaulted some of our female relatives years ago.
The nursing home forced me to come pick him up. He hit staff members before escaping and was picked up by police hours later.
They called me and asked if I would come pick him up. Cops said they couldn't force him to stay at the nursing home.
Nursing home only allowed him to stay until Medicare stopped paying.
I'm worn out, but can't just leave him by himself as I'm his POA and guardian.
Any help or advice will be much appreciated. I need assistance with filling out V.A. forms.